Updated: Dec 20, 2020
Love starts and ends with our own self love.
I feel like society teaches you that anyone who professes love for themselves are vain and arrogant. Its got lost along the way that HELL YES one of the first things we need to do is to truly love ourselves, so that we can show up as our true authentic selves, surely that is pivotal to how we show up in life, in order to live a life of balanced abundance and in alignment with our higher selves. This has massively got lost along the way. Now don’t get me wrong arrogance and vanity are not an attractive feature by any stretch however that is not what self love is.
Self love is uttering words of positivity and love to yourself, embracing every perfection and imperfection when you look at yourself, hear yourself. I want you to imagine that you are standing in front of the most beautiful full length mirror you have ever seen, I want you to look at your reflection, I want you to start from the top of your head as you bring your gaze slowly down to your face I want you to truly look at every inch of yourself, scanning your way down your body until you have reached your feet. You can close your eyes as you do this. Now I want you to take note of the words and comments that you have just said about yourself, were they kind? Were they loving? Were they words of inspiration and tenderness. Ask yourself would you talk like that to someone else? Ask yourself what are you truly unhappy with? What is coming up for you?
How we view ourselves is a representation of what we are experiencing inside. It is so easy for me to say, well just think positive things, recite positive affirmations as you look at yourself in that mirror. Although that is a great place to start its also like sprinkling fairy dust on a pile of shite. Self love can sometimes mean having to dig down deeper below the surface and get to the core of why it is we are feeling the way we are. What is the crux of our self love and self esteem issues.
There is also an element of, is it vanity to focus on our external look? No, to me how we show up with how we look is embodying and expressing who we truly are on the inside. Its a form of self expression, we are our own artwork and the exciting thing is we can change it up whenever we so wish, new hair, new clothes, tattoos, these are all an external symbolisms and expressions of who we are as individuals. Wanting to show up as our best selves is not vanity or arrogance. When we look at ourselves and we do not like what we see, is it because at that current time we are not showing up as our true selves. Are we not living in alignment with who we truly are? For when we truly learn to live a heart centred life in alignment with our highest selves, when we learn to truly love and accept every part of our being on an a mind, body and soul level, well that is when the magic truly happens.
You are beautiful just as you are. If this resonates with you goddess and you want guidance and support to learn to work on your self love and acceptance drop me a message and we can talk about how I can personally help you on this part of your journey.
As always lots of love from me to you.